The words that I have read have me furious. It was there in black and white, the story of a fussy baby who was spoon fed ice cream to keep his composure. I read a baby book and that baby was me! I am outraged - how dare my parents to comfort me - six months - with ice ? No wonder I grew up to be an adult addicted to candy sweet high fat fat. I was a big baby and I became a big child, adolescent and adult fat fat. All because in six months , the solution for my tears was ice cream.
When I read the book dark baby smell triggered an anger that had been built since the good doctor stomach given by God and deprived me of all the amenities you ever known. My gastric bypass made me lean, but also made me angry .
I was furious , and I will not blame them - my parents - for twenty- five years of obesity. Twenty-five years of suffering and self-hatred. Twenty-five years of social inferiority , because he was fat. It was his fault ! A normally docile person ,
He was livid . I was furious . It broke my heart . There is so much pain associated with obesity, particularly for children and adolescents, how dare - they gave me life - I threatened to make me fat? How dare they ?
I fed my rage for weeks festering in my mind until I get to the life of his own . He was not in control of my thoughts because I had yielded to anger. This should have been the most exciting time in my adult life , I became the new me , however, was a poor thin person bitter anger .
Most gastric bypass patients experience anger as they lose weight.
Now I understand that this phase of anger is common for morbidly obese person in recovery. Most of our anger about how obesity caused us to be self-hatred : learn to hate us - since childhood - because of our obesity. We are angry we to blame for the lack of control that caused obesity, we are angry against those who accuse us . We are angry against those who despise us for being fat , so we looked down on "low" to take the easy way - Surgery - to lose weight . We are angry against the doctors who have been told to lose weight, but do not tell us how. We are angry against the media bombards us with images of rail thin models skeleton that send the message that the behavior is unhealthy anorexic fashion and obesity is disgusting. Is announcing the happy thin people eating processed soup fat laden unhealthy food portions the same press . We are angry against employers who do not promote obesity , and we work twice as hard to show that obesity is not just stupid. We are angry against the food industry that took billions of dollars when we fell in love with our promise " instant weight loss guaranteed . " We are angry against the person said. "You have a pretty face, if you could lose weight" We are angry against a society that politically incorrect insult people by race , religion or sexual orientation, but leaves open to defame and humiliate obese field.
The recovery of obesity are very angry. And finally, after years of stuffing feelings of anger inside , anger explodes when you lose weight and get new ones. And that makes us angry too! Why we had to lose weight to allow us to be angry ?
We have the right to be angry . As a category of persons who are subject to the most tolerated socially acceptable form of bigotry : it is in our home and social life, at work, in our leisure . We live in a society where half the people are obese - half of morbid obesity - but that society condemns obesity as untouchable today. We have the right to be angry .
Anger leads us on the path of blame. We want to blame someone or something for our suffering. Certainly not an obese person only chose to be fat . Obesity is not an option. We want to blame someone else , because most of our lives, we blamed is that fat people are learning to do - we hate for an election that does not.
But a new movement in psychology, the science of happiness , says there is a better way. This practice, he said , of course , bad things happen to good people . The science of happiness calls people to gather your inner strength and accept bad things happen as a matter of fact and then move on.
The science of happiness , we must focus on our strengths . According to Dr. Dan Baker, a leader in the science of happiness and the author of What Happy People Know: How the new science of happiness can change your life for the better "by focusing on strength work because you feel better focus on weakness. energy is created , which is always necessary for the transformation. Moreover, it is self-sufficient and full of rewards . "
When I began to understand that my obesity is the result of the convergence of anthropogenic changes - the industrial revolution - my parents did not intend for me to be fat, and I did my best for my health to undergo surgery - then my anger subsided .
Some patients with weight loss have reached their anger by becoming defenders . Requests that the fair treatment of obese , for fair treatment in the workplace and improving insurance coverage for the treatment of obesity. I know people who are sport and life coaches to teach children about nutrition and physical activity.
But more importantly , I know that WLS patients who are lawyers in their own homes . They affect healthy change for the next generation . These brave people teach their children to eat healthy and exercise and avoiding foods and habits that lead to obesity . They are the defenders keep the next generation of surgical table and release the throes increasingly obese. Developers do not have the time to anger. Be intensified where genetics can not keep up and , one by one , to the obesity epidemic.
Is it easy to let go of anger? Not all the time . I always get very angry when I see overweight adults feed their children without thinking things that make you fat . Sometimes you just want to shake them and say, "You know what you do to that boy Do you know what kind of life she is leading ? "I 'm still looking for an answer to this anger, but the wounds of childhood obesity not easily cured . Maybe this is a good thing. Maybe this will be the motivation you need to leave the world a better , more healthy legacy for future generations - with or without surgery weight loss.
